I am a fixer. I like to get things done, and when faced with an obstacle or injustice my mind is often sifting through all the possible solutions and avenues available to fix the problem. That’s what “fixers” do.
To be honest I think the world needs fixers. History is full of brave, courageous, energetic people who on seeing an injustice, an issue, a need, or a problem that needs fixing spent their time and effort on fixing the problem. Therefore we can surmise that being a fixer is okay.
However, as I discovered once again this week, it is wisdom for fixers to combine their fixing capabilities with a dependency on God. I was faced with a problem that needed fixing and I was annoyed about it, and had been busy formatting a list of what needed to be done, and how it was to be done. Fortunately my husband took one look at me and said, “Let’s wait and pray, I don’t think you should do anything about this today at all!” The fixer in me resisted, and wanted to rebel. But as we prayed together I heard the Holy Spirit say “Wait”, and so I did.
Fixers need to learn to wait. Otherwise when we are faced with a problem “the fixer” in us can rush ahead of God because we think we know how to handle everything. We probably can get the job done, but I’ve learnt,(often the hard way), that God’s ways are always with far less toil, stress and worry. Often if we stop and actually pray over the situation, or for the person needing “fixing”, we won’t have to fix anything at all. God will in fact take care of it Himself, send some help, or tell us what to do next.
“Trust in and rely confidently on the Lord with all your heart. And do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him, And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way].” (Proverbs 3:5-6)
One of the greatest struggles as a fixer is to learn to depend on God. It is okay, and actually beneficial to need Him. But our tendency for independence rises up at the very thought of needing anyone. We like to be in charge. We don’t want to be a bother. We don’t want to “need” anybody; especially if we struggle with trust issues.
But depending on God is vital for us being able to live the life we were created for. We were not designed to be independent from God. We’ll only walk in the plans He has for us effectively if we learn to depend on Him for everything every minute of the day. He wants a partnership; a friendship, because we are better together with Him. Then all the resources He has become available to us, including His wisdom, strength and timing on how to “fix” problems.
Today consider what areas of your life are you trying to fix without depending on God? Where have you rushed in and not waited for direction, or for God to move?
If you are facing a need to “fix” a problem right now, I encourage you to stop, wait and pray. Tell God you need Him to direct and give you the wisdom and help you need in what to do. He uses “fixers”, but to do that He needs us to depend on Him to bring the needed healing, deliverance, breakthrough and victory.
“For I am the LORD your God, who upholds your right hand, Who says to you, ‘Do not fear, I will help you.” (Isaiah 41:13)
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” (Philippians 4:6)
Prayer: Lord thank you that you have a plan, and that you do want to use me. Help me to not rush ahead and try to do it all by myself, instead of depending on you. I need your help and guidance today. In Jesus Name Amen.