When our kids were little, one of their favourite words was “Why?” and as they got older “, ”just because” wasn’t enough of an answer for them. The why word is popular I guess because people, no matter the age, want answers to life’s questions, and one of the best ways to get answers is to ask, “Why”?
Whenever my husband is coaching or trying to help people achieve their goals and dreams, he often asks the "5 Why's".
The “Five Whys” technique is an effective way to solve problems, get to the root of an issue and discover what we want and are thinking and feeling. It helps us seek continuous improvement rather than taking the easy road and blaming our feelings and life on someone else.
When we ask why and determine what we want, we discover the real cause of problems. It then helps us make informed decisions so that we can both fix the problem and eliminate the root cause so as to avoid repeating the same mistakes or remaining stuck in our issues.
Begin asking the 5 Why's by:
1. Defining the problem and focusing your answer so that it is as specific as possible to address the issue
2. Ask Why so that the root cause can be revealed.
3. Ask Why to your response to the previous question and repeat this five times so that more than the surface aspects of what you are feeling and facing can be looked at.
4. Write down your answers.
5. Problem solve – what can you do, change, let go of and address?
Our hearts are funny things, and often what we feel is hidden under layers of self-protection, fear, and doubts. We can get distracted by the noise around and within us, yet fail to know what’s bothering us. However, when we ask ourselves questions and then choose to problem solve, we won’t just brush things aside but can move forward positively.
Today, what “Why” questions can you benefit from asking yourself?
Are there some relationship, job, financial or spiritual questions that would be good to ask yourself so you can continue to grow and move forward?
Don’t get stuck and go round and round in circles on the same issues, but ask why and then seek God’s help as you take steps to solve the problem and make plans to move forward.
“Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the way everlasting.” (Psalm 139:23-24)
“ If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” (James 1:5)
Prayer: Lord, help me be honest about my feelings and any issues I may face. Please show me the answers to my Why questions, and lead me in the way to go today. In Jesus name Amen.